tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76707898687020442352024-03-05T09:01:00.588-08:00Choice Theory in New ZealandApplications in the New Zealand contextUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-50462174540854242732020-08-01T22:15:00.001-07:002020-08-01T22:46:38.123-07:00The Solving Circle<div class="MsoNormal">
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Glasser’s Solving Circle has many applications and can be adapted for use with
students in schools. It is a valuable
tool in the toolbox of the Lead Manager.<o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
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long-lasting results.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Every person who joins a group changes the dynamics. A new year six student arrived at Arundel
State School during the year. She was a
vivacious, attractive girl from South Africa of Indian descent. The ‘in-group’
of year six girls immediately included her in their group.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"> After a time, the relationship began to deteriorate
and turned quite nasty and it descended
into name-calling and general put-downs, ending up a catfight and the girls scratching
of each other. Parents became
involved. <o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The classroom teacher and I were both Glasser advocates and decided this
would be an excellent opportunity to use the Solving Circle. I knew the classroom teacher had tried a few
interventions and we were now willing to see if the Solving Circle could make a
difference. <o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">There was never an investigation into who did what, or who
started the fights and this fresh approach proved a game-changer for the girls.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The process is heavily dependent on trust and if this not
present there is little chance for this to work. Blaming, complaining, criticising could well
be used to try and control others. The individuals on the Solving Circle must
have a level of trust with others to share information. A school culture that focuses on lead
management driven by internal motivation and control is crucial for this
process to work.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Adapting the process to a large primary school setting was easily done.
I met with each of the girls involved and interviewed each one alone, outside the classroom and away
from my office. </span></span></i></div>
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first of two self-evaluation questions.</span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">“Are you happy with the way things are?” Each response to
this question was a resounding ‘no’. <o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;">“Do you want to work
things out?” Each girl in turn replied that yes she wanted to solve the
problem. The last question echoed a bit of a mantra around the school. “ In
this school we work things out”, was a big part of how we did things at the
school.</span></i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"> <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">On the day as a group I
went to the staff room with the classroom teacher, five year six girls and a friend who had joined the new girl. <o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">A length of ribbon was laid out in the form of a circle which
enabled us to all sit inside the circle.
In the circle, we added an index card on which was written in large letters
THE FRIENDSHIP. This is the third entity
in the solving circle, and this becomes the focus of the questioning that
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=7670789868702044235&useLegacyBlogger=true" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><a href="https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=7670789868702044235&useLegacyBlogger=true" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><a href="https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=7670789868702044235&useLegacyBlogger=true" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><i><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I explained that everyone had agreed that they were not happy
with the way things were and that they wanted to work things out. We agreed
that the friendship was important to us all.</span></span></i></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><b>Before holding the Solving Circle seek agreement from each of the participants that they are not happy with what has been happening and that they want to work it out.<o:p></o:p></b></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><b>Set up a physical space with a circle of rope or ribbon deliniating the circle.</b></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Outline what will be happening in the circle. State that while were are in the circle we will choose to do and say things that will help, not harm the relationship. We can always step out of and back into the Solving Circle when we are ready to work it out.<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Ask each individual to briefly explain their perception of what the problem with the relationship was.<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Ask the question of each participant “Whose behaviour can you control ?”<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Ask each participant in the Solving Circle “What is one good thing about the relationship as it exists right now?”<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Ask “What you one thing are willing to do to bring everyone closer together?”<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Ask “What is an additional thing you will do this week to improve the relationship?<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;"><b>Ask “How will you let your teacher know if this is working?” </b></span></span></li>
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follow up to this story took place in a Master of Education tutorial where the
mother of the ‘new girl’ was my student.
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to get a student and teacher together to work out a relationship that would be
needs satisfying for both parties. The possibilities are endless. </span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><a href="http://mentalhealthandhappiness.com/the-solving-circle/">http://mentalhealthandhappiness.com/the-solving-circle/</a></span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"> </span><span style="background: white; color: #141412; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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nugget of gold that William Glasser has left us. Let us use it in our schools for creating a place
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<span style="font-size: 13.2px;">My older brother and I had a discussion about school journals that were a part of our reading program at school in New Zealand all those years ago. He reminded me about a story that had made a huge impact on him called</span><span style="font-size: 13.2px;"> </span><i style="font-size: 13.2px;">The Weather Rope</i><span style="font-size: 13.2px;">. Perhaps it was the fact that we grew up in a farming community where the weather was always a topic of discussion "We need rain." Or "Wish it would stop raining so we can get the hay in." Perhaps it was the possibility of being able to control things over which we had no control.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;"><span style="font-size: 13.2px;">This all went along very well until people started to disagree with what they wanted. Some wanted it to stop raining so they could go to the beach. Others wanted the wind to dry the washing. The gardeners wanted the wind to stop so that the roses would not be blown away. The arguments began and people were pulling the rope so often and so hard to get what they wanted, that the suddenly the rope fell out of the sky. People could not longer get what they wanted.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;"><span style="font-size: 13.2px;">This is so true in life. People have different wants. We know that we are driven by what we want, to match our Quality World pictures. Our choices in behaving to get what we want may result, as in the story, in none of us getting what we want.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "arial" , "tahoma" , "helvetica" , "freesans" , sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;"><span style="font-size: 13.2px;">I have a favourite cartoon which depicts two characters in a stand off, each with a rolled-up magazine ready to strike. The caption has one of the two saying "No way. I'll put my magazine down when you put yours down."</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;">R<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">arely are politicians
challenged to lead their country through sweeping and far-reaching change.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="color: red;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div>
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unprecedented ordeals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>2019 brought the
Christchurch massacre and the eruption of Whakaari White Island. 2020 brought the
emerging COVID 19 virus pandemic. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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to and from work, or those going to the supermarket and pharmacy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Over 70s were also asked to stay at
home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This step, in a bid to stop the
spread of the virus and save lives, started just past midnight of 25<sup>th</sup>
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and skill from the Prime Minister. Jacinda Ardern has received domestic and
international recognition for her leadership style.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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the fight against COVID 19, the building of a comprehensive communication system
has been paramount. Clear expectations have featured in daily media
conferences. Where there has been a lack of clarity, the feedback has been listened
to and action has been taken. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Questions
of the Prime Minister and her team of political colleagues and non-elected
government officials have enabled journalists to seek clarity for the public on
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very evident that while the leader was firmly in charge, the Labour party
always participated in the difficult decisions that have been made.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri;">As H.E. Luccock said, “No one can whistle a
symphony.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Minister Jacinda Ardern, Ashley Bloomfield the Director-General of Health,
Finance Minister Grant Robinson, Education Minister Chris Hipkins, and others have
been the public face of the government for New Zealanders.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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Facebook pages and television advertisements have all been carrying information
readily available to the public since the beginning of the crisis. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Through
her Facebook page, we gained a personal insight into the woman who was leading
our country through yet another crisis. Relaxed at home, Jacinda Ardern revealed
herself as a genuine person who shows people her care and concern.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was even able to relate to the young
children with her assurance that the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny were
essential workers. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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widespread use of themes and catchphrases such as “Stay Home”, “Stay Safe”, “Stay
in your Bubble” and “Stay Local” were repeated daily. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It has been these consistent messages that
seem to have gained, to a great extent, the cooperation of New Zealanders. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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of four weeks came to an end, we were asked to remain isolated for another
week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The Prime Minister and her
Ministers have said, “Let us finish what we started”. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There was a collective sigh of relief and frustration.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One thing that was obvious, that even though
people were breaking their necks to get out and for businesses to get going again,
there was the willingness to follow the leader. If our leader had not inspired
most people to make the hard decisions, the successful results would not have
been achieved.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">From reports,
we read that a large percentage of people are doing the right thing. One report
from the police stated that 99 .9 % of people were staying at home and
self-distancing when away from their home. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This model of lead management is based on
building trust.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Jacinda has said several
times “We trust New Zealanders”. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She
also talks about the team of five million.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">With the evidence
of positive results of the rāhui, falling case numbers, increasing numbers of people
recovering and breaking the chain of community transmission, New Zealanders are
feeling a sense of relief.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The parallels
between the leadership of a country and the leadership of a family, a classroom, or a school can be drawn.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Taking the
learning from the style of leadership in New Zealand during the COVID 19
pandemic into these situations can have many benefits.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is generally a sense of calm, trust,
willingness to do the right thing, to reach out and help others. Many have
learned new skills, revived old and forgotten skills and generally have gained
from the experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those who went into
the rāhui stressed would have dealt with it differently.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those who feared for their survival would
have found it demanding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When deeply
held values and beliefs are challenged, the situation is incomprehensible and
testing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Leadership
does make a difference.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It can make or
break a task, a project, a family, a class, an organisation, or a nation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Keeping in mind Dr William Glasser’s Lead
Management, we can all attempt to be closer to a Lead Manager than a Boss
Manager to inspire others to follow us.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">We hope that
as we rebuild a shattered economy, we can all do our absolute best to achieve
the outcomes we want in a way that is acceptable to others.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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prefer the Māori word rāhui which can be interpreted as meaning- honour the
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-52573869346907106182020-04-11T20:25:00.005-07:002020-05-08T02:05:45.197-07:00Glasser Aotearoa New Zealand Inc<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It has been some time since this blog has been used. Like a number of things online, it has been ignored or forgotten. It will no longer be forgotten as it now has a home on the newly created, rebranded Glasser Aoteroa New Zealand website. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">A new logo was commissioned in 2019 to give a fresh new look whilst maintaining the concept of the hands and a flame of the original logo of The William Glasser Institute all with an Aotearoa New Zealand theme.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">In January 2020 following a two-day retreat in Auckland at the home of Ksenija Napan, replacing the William Glasser Institute New Zealand, Glasser Aotearoa New Zealand was launched with the new Management Committee making some decisions about the future of the organisation. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The beginnings of a new website has been constructed and the blog was linked for ease of access.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">These blogs will be intermittent as time permits. From time to time we will add links to other people's work. We invite anyone who would like to contribute to do so. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> </span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-43690483395309510342013-11-24T14:19:00.002-08:002013-11-24T14:19:45.067-08:00If Dr. Glasser's Ideas Are So Great and Have Been Around for Fifty Years, Why Aren't All Schools Using Them?<div class="MsoNormal">
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Recently, I received an email from a teacher who hopes to convince the
administration and staff of her school to move in the direction of creating a
Glasser Quality School. She was asked
the question that is the title of this article and she wanted my help to answer
it. Perhaps she sent this to many of the
Glasser Quality Schools. I found this a
compelling question and I wanted to share my answer here because we have all
given a lot of thought to our goal of teaching the world choice theory and we
have often wondered why there aren't more Glasser Quality Schools. Below is my answer to her question:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> What
a great question! Actually, it has only
been 20 years since Dr. Glasser put his ideas together into a form that could
help people create an entire school. He
came out with The Quality School and Quality School Teacher in the
mid-90's. Also, this is not a program
that can be started in a school at the beginning of a year and then changed a
couple of years later. This is an idea
that starts up inside of each participant, from the administration to the
teachers, the students, and finally going home to the parents, and home to the
teachers' families and the principal's family, too.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> Choice
Theory is not a program. Glasser Quality
Schools are not a program. They are a
thought system, a way of life, a new way of thinking about the world, about the
relationships between students and teachers, administrators, and families. It has taken us 26 years to create our
current level of mastery of Dr. Glasser's ideas here at Murray. We still have a long way to go and are
involved in making many changes, many improvements. Dr. Glasser always said that 95% of any problem
was a system problem and only 5%, if that much, was a people problem. So, the job of creating a Glasser Quality
School is to come up with a system that works to create happiness in the
school. This is not as easy as it
sounds, nor is it as difficult.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> For
instance, each of us is learning Choice Theory.
Each of us has our own level of understanding of these ideas and each of
us is wrestling with our own level of resistance to these ideas. We are not all in the same place at the same
time, so the system you develop has to have a tolerance and a love for the
growth, the individual transformation, that is required. The system has to have a tolerance for the
time it takes for each individual to transform him/herself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> I
can attest to the idyllic environment that is created when you work hard for 26
years to develop a school based on Dr. Glasser's Choice Theory. We are not all perfect here. Most of our students have been very hurt by
life in so many ways, hurt by the education system that has left too many of
them feeling like failures. We have
conflicts every day, but we have a system to understand the conflicts and to
work them out. For instance, when two
students became angry at one another on Friday, both of them requested to be
able to separate from the other, so no physical conflict would arise. They walked away. This is the result of years of work with
these two boys to learn Choice Theory, that they can get in charge of the
choices they make when anger hits them.
They did not get "in trouble" because they raised their voices
at each other and disrupted class. They got
time and attention from trained and loving teachers who heralded their
decisions not to hit each other and helped them think through what had happened
that led to the conflict, what they each could have done differently, and on
Monday, will help them mediate with each other until a plan they can both agree
with is in place and a solution to their conflict has begun.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> There
is so much to say about the success of this school. Our test scores soar because our students are
happy here and want to do well to help the school, and themselves. But the best of all is the feeling of
camaraderie, of friendship between students and teachers. Here, there is trust between us. We work hard at it. We constantly work to improve our
relationships because we know kids won't learn well from people they don't love
and who don't love them. We use the word
love all the time here. We aren't afraid
to say we love our kids and they aren't embarrassed to say they love us,
too. We think schools should be built on
a foundation of love and trust.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> So,
why aren't there thousands of these schools -- good question. We work all the time to help schools consider
adopting these ideas. Our students
travel to schools around the world, teaching people how to start up a Glasser
Quality School. No one is as great a
spokesman about Glasser Quality Schools than the kids who are educated
here. Just last week, we hosted a team
from a county in North Carolina who had heard about Murray and wanted to see it
in action. Afterwards, they were so
overwhelmed by the level of love the kids shared about Murray and the level of
understanding they had about why they are being educated the way they are. They said they want that for their
school. They asked our kids for advice
about how to implement these ideas with middle school kids and got lots of
suggestions. They are planning to bring
a team of Murray kids to North Carolina to talk to their faculty.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> I
think that it takes a long time and a lot of commitment to help an entire staff
come to believe that it's <i>possible</i> to
create a school based entirely on love and respect. Next, they need to be willing to transform
themselves by learning Choice Theory, Reality Therapy, and Lead Management, in
order to bring this about. For instance,
teachers may have become set in their ways and it might be tough for them to
give up their "teacher look," the one that nails a kid who is
disrupting. But that look is a
threat. That look has no place in a
Glasser Quality School. So to even give
up <i>the looks</i> we've come to rely on,
that's asking a lot. And it takes YEARS
of practice, but like anything worth doing, years of practice pay off
hugely! We think our kids deserve an
education from a team of professionals who have been practicing for years to
treat them respectfully, and to expect great things from them, so they feel
inspired to excel. But I think you can
see that the individual transformations that will need to take place for this
to happen take time, a personal inclination, and especially, belief.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> When
we first started Murray, we all believed we could change schools so kids and
teachers would like them more. At first,
however, we brought all our old controlling and punitive behaviors with us and
we used them every one of them. This was
good because we got to see that they don't really work, if working means
helping resistant students come to love us and to therefore love school and
education. And because we began the
school open to changing education in a serious way, we kept tinkering. We kept developing methods of helping
ourselves as staff grow and slough off our old punitive ways and to keep from
having a school of chaos with kids running around causing untold trouble. We learned that kids who love their school
don't want to cause trouble and are willing to keep working to unlearn their
old habits of acting out and hurting others without thinking. They are mostly grateful to be learning the
skills they can clearly see will help them in their lives, both in and out of
school.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> So,
if you want to talk more about Glasser Quality Schools, feel free to call me. I
LOVE talking about Glasser Quality Schools because I believe that these ideas
are so superb that one day all schools will be using them. Educators would be fools not to use these
ideas when they work so well at helping people love school and learning.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Charlotte Wellen, NBCT, Murray Choices
Teacher, Instructor at the William Glasser Institute -- US<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-63357000471105804742013-08-26T17:36:00.000-07:002013-08-26T17:41:03.601-07:00The Loss of Our Teacher and Mentor<h2 class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-outline-level: 2;">
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">It is with great sadness that we mourn the loss of our teacher, mentor and friend. Dr William Glasser MD passed away peacefully in his home in Los Angeles on the 23 August, 2013.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">Glasser visited New Zealand on two occasions. Each time he brought the energy of his teaching as he connected with many throughout the country. His attendance at the conference in Christchurch was a standout time for those of us who attended.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">Gwen Sands and I had dinner with him following that conference, and we will both always have that memory etched in our quality worlds.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">The lens through which we view the world is the beliefs we have about how we live our lives. Are we at the mercy of things and people outside ourselves or do we have control? This lens impacts on how we interact with others, how we accept what is happening with us and those around us. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If we view the world as ‘doing things’ to us – we can easily slip into the disconnecting habits of blaming and complaining.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Through the lens of internal control psychology we learn that we can make better choices.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">It has been said that we are born without an instruction manual.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Dr Glasser has given us the simple framework of the Basic Needs to understand our driving motivations.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By teaching us this, he has given us the manual for understanding ourselves and others. With this knowledge we can help others take charge of their lives. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">In sharing his theory about the basic needs, we learned about the strengths of the needs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Knowing your genetic profile or the strengths of you five basic needs and those of someone with whom you are in a relationship, can give valuable information about possible pitfalls. Need strengths profiles that are significantly different can be perceived as a barrier to the relationship, however, awareness of these differences can enable understanding and acceptance.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">The Solving Circle is a very useful way of getting couples on their front wheels and continuing to work hard at their relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Knowing that the only person someone can change is him or herself, this strategy sets up a situation where people within a relationship can see a way forward.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is useful not only for partners in a relationship but with groups of children in a family or at school.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">If all schools were Glasser Quality Schools, we would impact significantly on the world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Schools where students are self managing, achieving at high standards and are joyful in learning, means that students leave as happier and healthier individuals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Research shows us that if children are self managing by the age of ten, it impacts on their long term health, wealth and their likelihood of committing crime.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We would need fewer prisons, fewer hospitals and the world would be a safer place for everyone.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-AU; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-AU;">Bette Blance<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>President William Glasser Institute-New Zealand</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-49416923089666585262013-05-08T03:10:00.001-07:002013-05-08T03:10:27.424-07:00Happy 88th Birthday Dr Glasser <span style="font-family: Calibri;">It is fitting that this week , Teacher Appreciation Week , is the 88<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">th</span></sup> birthday of the originator of Choice Theory and its applications Dr William Glasser.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span><br />
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<span lang="EN-AU" style="font-size: 12pt;">According to the New Zealand Department of Corrections website, </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">one in every two prisoners is re-convicted and re-imprisoned within four years of release. With a 50% failure rate, is what we are doing working? Anne Tolley, Minister of Corrections wants to reduce this rate by 25%.</span></div>
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How about 3.5% That is the result of a 2012 longitudinal university study in the Californian Institution for Women. These inmates are being taught how they can have control over their lives by Instructors from the William Glasser Institute. Over a period of five years 500 women have spent over 100 hours learning Choice Theory. There is currently a waiting list of 200 women wanting to be involved. They request transfers from other prisons to be able to learn this life -changing program.<o:p></o:p></div>
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This training is available in New Zealand. Perhaps we need to look at what it can do for our women in prison. They are the mothers of children now and in the future. They can make a difference.<o:p></o:p></div>
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And at the same time we could be teaching students at school Choice Theory to enable them to make choices so they don’t end up in prison in the first place. Everyone is one choice away from prison; let’s teach these young people that they have the choice. </div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-90771930935846531222013-02-02T09:53:00.001-08:002013-02-02T09:53:38.154-08:00Bullied to DeathWatching the recently screened TV program <i>Bullied to Death: The Tragedy of Phoebe Prince, </i>several thoughts came to mind.<br />
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This scenario is no doubt played over and over throughout the schools in many countries around the world. New female student arrives at a school, leaving behind friends at a previous school. At first the student is popular, perhaps because of a novelty factor. Then the girl is seen as a competitor with the popular boys of the school. The perpetrators join forces to threaten and punish the victim.<br />
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Without intervention this can be an ongoing barrage - deliberate, calculated, purposeful.<br />
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Phoebe Prince hung herself, after this ongoing verbal assault over many months became intolerable.<br />
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A similar scenario occurred at the school when I was deputy principal. The new eleven year old girl arrived – very attractive and bubbly – and at first was welcomed into the group of popular girls. The friendship and the subsequent behaviour of all of the girls deteriorated, to what could only be called a ‘cat fight’, with physical abuse escalating.<br />
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The teacher was unable to resolve the issue and parents became involved.<br />
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I used an intervention called the Solving Circle from Dr Glasser’s book Choice Theory, a new psychology for personal freedom.<br />
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The long term results of that intervention are documented – years later - relayed to me by the mother of one of the girls. The girls involved in the whole situation at school were still friends. The Solving Circle had lasting impact.<br />
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In the TV program there was blaming, criticism and calls for punishment of the bullies and of the education staff. Legislation was introduced involving the mandatory reporting of bullying. Nowhere in the article was there any thought given to the ‘system’ and how a school can be such that students learn to resolve differences.<br />
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The obvious cliques in the story, the adversarial relationships are likely indicators that competitive forces are at work. Power-over seemed to be the predominant way of interacting.<br />
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Until schools change their ‘system’ to one where issues like this are ‘worked out’, bullying will continue and unhappy students may take the ultimate choice, that of taking their own lives.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-37991765885618676672012-11-23T20:34:00.000-08:002012-11-23T20:41:34.941-08:00Strengthening New Zealand So People Don't Want to Leave<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I watched a current affairs program about the New Zealanders
going to live in Australia in their thousands over the last five years. The
current situation is that New Zealanders arriving in Australia are temporary
citizens, not able to access any government money in the form of grants or
benefits. That people cannot access unemployment benefits is a good thing, as it is often too easy to become dependent instead of standing on your own two feet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, the argument was the children who
have gone with their parents to live in Australia since 2003 are unable to
access student loans when they wish to study and will need to pay overseas
student fees which are significantly higher.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Minister Peter Garrett responded to questions about this
situation, stating that New Zealanders were making the choice, knowing
this information before they left New Zealand.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>He did indicate that there were avenues, government to government that
could be undertaken to change this situation. He handled a difficult interview
by maintaining his stance that it was an informed choice.</span></div>
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tweets running underneath the story were interesting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They used all the disconnecting habits. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Understandably, few supported what Peter Garrett was saying.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>#<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">New
Zealand should do the same thing to any Australians who come here</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Take
away their rights</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Threatening and
punishing are deeply entrenched in our society.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
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don’t do it so why should they? </i>Blaming and ‘shoulding’ behaviours, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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tweet suggested that we strengthen New Zealand so that people did not want
to leave the country. What a great idea.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Make New Zealand a needs- satisfying place to be and they will want to
stay.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">If New Zealand was a place that people
wanted to be, what would that be like?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A
place where people felt safe; where they had a sense of freedom; where they
could be playful and stay connected. Perhaps most people equate a move to Australia
with financial success. How can we change the perception of financial success
to one of being satisfied with what we already have? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Difficult in a materialistic, celebrity-driven
society.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The William Glasser Institute-New
Zealand has as its vision statement, <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Strengthening
New Zealand through Choice Theory Psychology</b>. Dr Glasser once told me he believed
that New Zealand was a small enough country to have the majority of people knowing, understanding and using Choice Theory.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If they
did know, and lived a life where they did not meet their needs at the expense
of others, then New Zealand would be a better place to be. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-8017882346572297852012-08-27T21:50:00.001-07:002012-08-27T21:50:14.576-07:00Central Region meet at Tokoroa<br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Last Thursday a small group of people who had completed a Basic Intensive Week at different times in the last 15 years, met in Tokoroa, part of the Central region with Bette Blance. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After coffee and nibbles and a catch up chat, Tina-Maree Hooper shared a little of her experiences at the Glasser Conference in Los Angeles in June and some of the ideas she had brought back with her. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The Choice Theory chart came to life again as Bette walked around it and linked it to our discussions and behaviours. We also reviewed the axioms of Choice Theory. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Feedback has included "I just learn a little more every time" and "It's great to have the chance to ask questions in a small group". </span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We arranged to meet again in November when another 6 or 7 will have completed their Basic Intensive Training.</span><br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-81765448853063795602012-08-19T00:51:00.003-07:002012-08-19T00:56:55.505-07:00Choice Theory in Action.<br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This story comes from Raewyn Whiteman Thorne who is the Regional Coordinator for the William Glasser Institute - New Zealand. She is at Tokoroa North Primary School. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Her story was about one particular student who came off the field more than a bit stroppy at interval complaining about another student. He said he was being mean, he wouldn't let him play and was saying mean stuff.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The boy stood beside Raewyn huffing and puffing with a bit of swearing. Raewyn said to him, "So </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">what do you want? Do you want to play or to stand here with me, you can only sort out your stuff not the other boy."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">He stood there sulking for a few minutes and within five minutes was back on the field, hesitantly at </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">first, then he got over it and did really well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Choice Theory made it so simple.</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-80663051478639555472012-08-05T22:31:00.005-07:002012-08-05T22:32:23.057-07:00On Becoming a Glasser Quality School<div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">
Those of us committed to Choice Theory in the field of education would most likely agree that if all schools were Glasser Quality Schools, we would have little need for places like the Californian Institution for Women in Los Angeles.</div>
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And perhaps fewer patients would be in our hospitals. Ah! What a dream </div>
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Implementing Choice Theory and its applications in schools takes an enormous amount of time, energy and commitment on the part of everyone in the school.<br />
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Throughout the world there are schools ‘on the journey’. Some have declared as a GQS while others are working towards it. Even though a school has declared as a GQS it is still always on the journey of continuous improvement.</div>
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In Australia and New Zealand we have decided to draw up a database of schools ‘on the journey’ to acknowledge and honour their efforts and give their contact details to people wanting to visit.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">It is a very brave step to declare as a GQS. You are announcing to the world and to the Glasser Community in particular that you have self evaluated and all agreed on achieving this status.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">There are huge expectations that the conditions of quality will be found in every nook and cranny of the school. Everyone from the janitor to the principal, the youngest child to the most experienced teacher know and live in a Choice Theory way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Factors such as changing government expectations, funding constraints, parental expectations can all work against the implementation of a Choice Theory school. Commitment and a willingness to persist in the face of this adversity is what makes a Glasser Quality School.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">In the words of Michael Jordan</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"> <i>Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give </i></span><i><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it. </span></i>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-63451578547032489202012-07-29T04:24:00.001-07:002012-07-29T04:29:03.286-07:00The Changing of the Guard<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">During the London Olympic Games opening ceremony young athletes aged between 16 and 19 took turns with the Olympic Torch as they ran around the Olympic stadium. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">These young athletes, nominated by various famous British athletes from the past, symbolised the passing of the mantle from the past to the future. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This was reminiscent of the dinner on the final night at the recent William Glasser Association International conference in Los Angeles.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In this photo Carleen and Dr Glasser with daughter-in-law Pam Glasser are backed by members of the International Board. This symbolised the passing of the mantle from Dr Glasser to the International Board and into the future.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Juan Pablo Aljure</b>, Colombia, <b>Linda Harshman</b> ( Legal Board), <b>Masaki Kakitan</b>i, Japan, <b>Janet Fain Morgan</b>, USA, </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Mirjana Palcic Bubnic</b>, </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Slovenia, <b>Ellen Gelinas</b>, Canada, <b>Mitchell Messina</b>, South Africa, <b>Jim Montagnes</b>, Canada, <b>Lucy Robbins</b>, USA, <b>Ivan Honey</b> Australia and <b>Brian Lennon</b> (Chair) from Ireland.</span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The work of the Board in maintaining the integrity of Choice Theory and its applications will continue to evolve as plans are put in place to do this important task. </span><br />
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In helping children to reframe the behaviour of others into Choice Theory language we can help them to see that all behaviour has a purpose. Exploring behaviour in this way opens up the discussion for self evaluation. Try it some time. It is fun to see the understanding develop in children so young.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-62471946606786938392012-04-09T11:08:00.005-07:002012-04-09T11:14:54.852-07:00Oh where , oh where is Choice Theory when you need it.<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">A Sunday newspaper appeared on the table the other day. One that I don't usually see. Three articles attracted my attention. One the front page the title was "The secret story of violence in schools' with a photo of a face with a large bruise under the eye. The article began with descriptions of student behaviours towards teachers in New Zealand schools. Pushing, verbal abuse, kicking, teacher cars being vandalised. Possibly not very different from many schools in other countries. The article stated that in some cases schools were asking teachers not to report these incidents for fear of involving the police would lead to negative publicity. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">The second article "Wagging school the daily deal for 29,000" with a subtitle -Chronic truants are getting lost in the system and ending up in crime or teen pregnancy statistics.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">One student was reported as saying he had regularly skipped school since the age of 13. "School was boring and dumb and I didn't know what to do. I just wanted to get stoned and hang out with my mates" </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">Since that time this student had joined an alternative edcuation program where he was attending class because the lessons were interesting.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">It is not news to us that the longer students spend outside the classroom the more likely they are to end up illiterate, on welfare and living a life of crime. They seek pleasure - using drugs and alcohol rather than pursuing a life where they have a chance at happiness through positive, generative relationships.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">The third article was more uplifting. It outlined an equine assisted learning experience. Through an organisation called New Zealand Horse-Assisted Learning Organisation ( NZHalo) 'at risk' students, special needs children including autistic children, troubled youth are able to benefit by attending these learning experiences.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">All of these articles have a unifying theme. Belonging and connectedness. In the first article about violence, students who feel connected are happier and therefore less likely to use violence to get what they want. If students are not connected at school they go where they feel connected. When students truant they do not find school needs satisfying and they go where their needs are met. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">The NZHalo learning experience was more than connecting with the horses. One group learned to ask for help from their classmates with managing a horse, something that they did not previously do. Another lesson was about setting boundaries.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">Making learning relevant, engaging and needs satisfying is what Choice Theory teaches.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">The elimination of coercion makes for a quality learning environment where all can succeed and become productive. Fix the system rather than the individuals. Truancy officers do an important job but why would students want to go back to the same old situation when it is not needs satisfying. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">Read the <a href="http://winwithchoice.blogspot.co.nz/">blog written by an Australian teacher</a> about how she connected with her students. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: x-small;">Just imagine if the teachers from a whole school did this. Or a whole nation of teachers did this. How different things would be. </span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Confirmation from Al Katz the Conference Chair means that we can now make arrangements for flights. A sizeable group from Australia has registered and are now looking for the best deal with flights.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The other piece of good news is that the early bird registration fee of $300 will be extended to April 15.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Still to come are the arrangements for booking accommodation, the call for presentations and giving us information about the Keynote speakers.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I have been in contact with Leigh McGown, principal of the Glasser Quality School in Colorado at <span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px;"><span style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;">Yampah Mountain High School. She is willing to have visitors to the school. Their school closes on 31 May. I will continue negotiations to see if it is a possibility.</span></span></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px;"><span style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><br />
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<ol><li>This is the First International Conference organised by the new William Glasser Association International</li>
<li>The location is Dr. Glasser’s home town.</li>
<li>As Dr. Glasser is no longer able to travel beyond Los Angeles, this gives us a special way to honour him and his work.</li>
<li>We have made a special effort to keep the registration fee and the accommodation fees at the lowest levels ever.</li>
</ol><div align="center"><strong>Join us in celebrating Choice Theory around the world!</strong></div><ol><li>To allow us to finalise our deposits with LMU it is vital to the success of this conference that we get as many early bookings as possible.</li>
<li><strong>We are asking you to pay your conference fee now.</strong></li>
<li><strong>The early registration fee is $300 (ending 31st Jan 2012).</strong></li>
<li>The conference fee includes registration, all presentations and keynotes, breakfast, lunch and dinner Thursday to Saturday inclusive and including the Saturday banquet.</li>
<li>If we do not achieve our target deposits by the end of January we will need to reconsider our options.</li>
<li>If, for any reason, the conference is not held your fees will be returned to you.</li>
<li>Important: Do not pay for any flights until you receive a receipt from the conference committee and a clear go ahead from us to book flights.</li>
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visit <a href="http://www.wgai.net/">WGAI</a> </div><a href="http://www.wgai.net/">www.wgai.net</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-77474415924034304052012-01-02T18:44:00.000-08:002012-01-02T18:44:00.775-08:00Win with Choice: Making the difference<a href="http://winwithchoice.blogspot.com/2012/01/making-difference.html?spref=bl">Win with Choice: Making the difference</a>: A young mum who, with her husband had taken over the family farm, put in a nutshell the difference between schools that adapt the philosophy...Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-33440858696330769242011-11-02T12:10:00.001-07:002011-11-02T12:10:42.071-07:00High School Glasser Quality SchoolThis site is Murray High School the first Glasser Quality School High School<br />
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<a href="http://murrayamericanstudies.blogspot.com/">http://murrayamericanstudies.blogspot.com/</a>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-11715288427063783802011-10-26T12:21:00.000-07:002011-10-26T12:21:36.726-07:00Basic Intensive Training in MorrinsvilleThe first Basic Intensive Training in Morrinsville was completed on 22 October. Bette Blance as a new instructor worked with people from RTLB, schools and a counselling background to undertake the 27 hours of Choice Theory and its applications training.<br />
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<div style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;"><i>What have you lot been up to each Saturday?"<br />
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"You know how some of our students are showing behaviours that not everyone agrees with don't you? This is jeopardising the school environment and students' education.</i></div><div style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;"><i><br />
Well, what we've been doing is professional learning on Choice Theory about meeting needs through positive choices. This means the staff and our students can be happier because their needs are being met and in turn they are reaching their highest educational outcome." </i></div><div style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;"><i><br />
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<ol><li><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';"><i>It sets out the problem</i></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';"><i>It sets out the opportunity</i></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';"><i>It sets out how the training is going to solve that in a way that's valuable to customers</i></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';"><i>It inspires the listener</i></span></span></li>
</ol><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: 'Lucida Calligraphy';"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">How does this sound? </span></span></span><br />
<ul><li><span style="font-family: 'lucida grande',tahoma,verdana,arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">We have a world that is beset with violence, break down of families, mentally ill people, jails full to overflowing</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'lucida grande',tahoma,verdana,arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">Learning Choice Theory has an answer to these huge issues. Even if we were able to eliminate just one of these areas, society would be a better place for everyone. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'lucida grande',tahoma,verdana,arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">We teach people that we need to recognise that we can only control ourselves. The issues are really all about trying to control others. Violence is trying to control others; break downs in families are the result of one person in the marriage trying to control another. Mentally ill people are largely people who have become disconnected from those who are important to them and people are often incarcerated because they tried to use force to control another person. Choice Theory teaches us ways to get what we want in a way that does not stop others from getting what they want. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: 'lucida grande',tahoma,verdana,arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">Wouldn't it be a wonderful place if we were able to eliminate these major concerns in society. Then the only thing we would need to solve is the poverty of many because of the greed of a few.</span></li>
</ul><span style="font-family: 'lucida grande',tahoma,verdana,arial,sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px;">Try this for yourself in your area of using Choice Theory and its applications. </span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670789868702044235.post-47160767559749193312011-06-06T01:18:00.000-07:002011-06-06T01:18:02.679-07:00Koraunui ClassroomIn this classroom the teacher Norah Jennings is working with a small group of learners in Year 6 discussing the Basic Needs. Other students are working independently. <br />
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