I was visited by a six year old girl recently and we were talking about school. She told me that sometimes her friend was mean to her. In wanting to change her thinking about this behaviour I asked her "Do you think that she was just trying to get what she wanted?" She nodded her head knowingly.
In helping children to reframe the behaviour of others into Choice Theory language we can help them to see that all behaviour has a purpose. Exploring behaviour in this way opens up the discussion for self evaluation. Try it some time. It is fun to see the understanding develop in children so young.